A Lighter Today Written over a period of weeks in August 2018 For the past year and coming to a peak this Spring (2018) I have been many variations of anxious, depressed, restless, lonely, extremely uncomfortable with being with myself and many emotions in between. I kept a journal during this time and some of my exact words as transcribed from my journey from May 2018-July 2018 include: “I feel a persistent need to do and be more. Nothing I do is ever enough.” “I look forward to evenings when I can allow myself to relax and enjoy relaxing.” “Sleep is a welcome reprieve from the torture of my mind, when I fall asleep I get a break from myself.” “I feel a conflict with all the things I could be doing right now when what I really crave is rest.” “I am in pain. I see why some people resort to cutting themselves, drugs, drinking excessively as an alternative to feeling the inner turmoil.” “It’s hard to get up, I feel like staying in bed all day.” “Everything feels like a chore, EVERYTHING.” “I feel very uneasy and anxious most of the time.” “I have a hard time being alone with myself.” “I am not happy with how I show up with Kennedy, I feel anxious around her and so [...]
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Do a thought experiment with me. Think about the last time you intended to do something new or out of your comfort zone, and you decided NOT to do it. Maybe you pulled out of skydiving last minute, or you were all signed up for an exercise class you weren’t sure about and decided not to go. Maybe you thought you would make a career change but didn’t quit your job. Or maybe it was smaller – you thought you would wear your sexy new dress to your anniversary date night and changed right before you left. What stopped you? When we run into situations like this, it often feels like an invisible force is pressing against us, telling us no. If we listen a little harder, we can hear exactly what that voice saying. This voice is your inner mean girl, or your inner critic. It pops up a lot when we’re about to do something new. I came into contact with my inner critic while I was a fitness instructor (ironically trying to boost my clients' self-esteem), and have made great strides in stopping her mid-sentence whenever she pops up to say something belittling to me. Today I want to talk about how you can tap into what she’s saying and what to do about her. What does the inner critic say? It’s different for everyone. I’m going to focus [...]
Do you struggle with your relationship with food? Sometimes we don’t think of it this way when we’re determined to lose weight, because we’re laser-focused on seeing results when we stand on the scale. When we’re in this frame of mind, we treat any negative feelings we have as just “part of the necessary struggle” towards weight loss. Negative feelings surrounding food include: Feeling guilty after you eat, feeling out of control when you eat (like you would be better off if someone else was making your food decisions), feeling stressed out at the thought of your next meal, eating to curb boredom, anxiety, frustration, or sadness, or “numbing out” when you eat (eating without thinking about what you’re eating). If this is you, I want to help you get to the bottom of this, because you’re not alone! I struggled with my relationship with food for my whole life. Even as a kid, I was already thinking about my weight and how I wasn’t good enough. I ended my war with food and my body using primarily one technique: Mindful eating. Before you think I’m trying to sell you yet another “too-good-to-be-true” solution that doesn’t work, mindful eating is not that. It’s one element of a whole new way of approaching your meals, your body, and your mindset. If done properly, mindful eating is a jumping-off point that trickles [...]
Have you ever finished a meal and felt stuffed but not satisfied? You know the feeling – bloated, kind of sick, lethargic, but also like you’re still missing something? If so, you are not alone! Usually when we do this, it leads to all sorts of regretful feelings– “Why did I grab that last slice?”, “Why did I force myself to eat those last four bites?” – and feelings of guilt – “Oh my god, I’m trying to be healthy right now, why did I do this to myself?” and “I don’t have any willpower or self-control!” It’s frustrating because we KNOW that eating four giant slices of greasy pizza isn’t good for us. Distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy food isn’t rocket science, and we are well aware when we are sabotaging ourselves, sometimes even mid-bite. But when we turn to the Diet Industry for help, we get some version of the same solution. All diets generally tell us this: You just need a strict set of rules, special meal plans, injections, or supplements to lose weight. The problem before was that you hadn’t found THIS diet. This time, you’re on the right track, as long as you don’t screw it up. When we find this new Diet to End All Diets, we’re filled with urgency and a new powerful motivation to be better this time. This new diet looks sleek, [...]